1) He supports you/ compliments you frequently
Does your significant other make you feel good about yourself?
A healthy relationship consists of positive words and actions in which you should feel built up, rather than torn down. He should support you and your decisions to the best of his ability, as you should for him as well.
2) He listens to you
Whether you’re talking about your feelings or explaining aunt Karen’s new smoothie diet, does he make you feel like you’re being heard? Regularly opening up can help bring you closer, says psychotherapist Beth Sonnenberg, L.C.S.W. “Once you think that your feelings don’t matter, won’t be heard, or are not worth sharing, you open the door to harbor negativity and resentment.” He should make you feel appreciated, no matter how important the topic.
3) You trust him
Do you trust him? When he’s out late with friends or on his phone at dinner, the feeling of trust is extremely necessary and frankly hard to come by nowadays with technology. Trust is the basis of reliability, freedom, peace of mind, confidence, and longevity. Trusting each other allows the rest of the relationship to fall into place.
4) He makes you laugh
Does he make you laugh? Everyone loves to laugh and being around someone who purposely (or maybe not so purposely) makes you laugh is a great quality for longevity.
5) He’s not afraid to show you off/ be affectionate
Does he seem to be proud to call you his significant other? Being shown off is a great feeling. Not only does it make you feel good about yourself but it also makes for a stronger relationship. Some people are more inclined to public affection than others but simple loving gestures are a good sign of a healthy relationship.
6) He’s receptive to feedback
Does he take the time to work on things that bother you? Manhattan-based licensed clinical psychologist Joseph Cilona says, “Commit to investing an hour—on an ongoing basis—to work on strengthening your relationship, troubleshooting, and making it more satisfying”. Relationships take work! Not only does communicating your problems help strengthen the relationship, in the long run, but it also keeps you sane!
7) He respects you
Does he make you feel like you’re worth his time? Respect is a feeling of admiration you have for someone. He should admire your abilities, treasure your qualities, and appreciate your achievements. To feel respected is to feel safe, accepted for who you are, valued, and encouraged to be your best self. When you feel respect for someone, you naturally want to act in ways that honor them. When you’re with them, you show them kindness and consideration. They don’t try to force you to be like them, because they appreciate you for your differences and accept them as they are.